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The key you need to unlock your husband’s heart

The key you need to unlock your husband’s heart

I have wonderful news for you!

You can have a successful, happy marriage! I know that because God created marriage and He never creates anything to fail.

If you do it God’s way, you will succeed. In the Bible we can find the key to unlocking your husband’s heart.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:33

I know, you have heard this scripture a million times and it doesn’t excite you one bit but just give me 5 minutes to explain something to you. Your marriage is worth it.


Men and women have different needs. Women have the need to feel secure and loved and man has the need to feel respected/honored.

Honoring your husband doesn’t make you less than your husband. In God’s eyes both husbands and wives are equal but they are different in function.

God knows what we need most and what makes relationships work. That’s why He called man to love his wife and called the woman to respect/honor her husband.

A woman that honors her husband has the key to unlock her husband’s heart.

Are you a wife that honors her husband?

Have you ever put yourself in your husband’s shoes? How does your husband see you? Does he feel loved, honored, and respected by you?

Are you his friend and his cheerleader or are you a nagging wife?

I understand that there are husbands that are very hard to please, hard to understand, hard to deal with but when you make the decision to honor him, sooner or later you will see a change in him.

We have to respect and honor our husbands because God said so. It has nothing to do with whether they deserve it or not. Remember that blessing comes with obedience. Trust God and do it His way.

Tips that will help you unlock your husband’s heart

Here are a few tips that will help you unlock your husband’s heart by honoring him:

1. Respect begins in the mind

How do you see your husband? Do you value him? What do you think about him? Do you admire him? The way that you see your husband will influence the way that you treat him and the way that you talk to him.

Focus on his strengths and not on his weaknesses. Focus on the good and not the bad.

Remember the devil is the accuser of the brethren and he hates relationships that’s why he tries so hard to cause division between people by accusing them of all their shortcomings.

Take your thoughts captive and when a negative thought about your husband pops in your mind cast it down. Choose to see him as God sees him.

You can have a happy marriage, all you need is the key to unlock your husband's heart

2. Watch how you treat him

Don’t lash out, don’t punish him, don’t shut him out, don’t scream or nag. Say what you need to say with truth and love. Remember that you are his equal, you can confront him if you need to but do it in love, do it respectfully.

3. Be a safe place for his heart

Be a good listener and not a fault finder. It’s beautiful when your husband can open up their heart to you, when they know that you are a safe place for him. No judging, no pointing fingers just a good listener.

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,

James 1:19

4. Stop challenging your husband

Don’t be an instigator, or a drama queen. Have a gentle spirit instead, be a peace maker.

5. Don’t treat your husband the way he deserves to be treated

Instead of treating your husband the way he deserves to be treated, treat him the way that God asked you to. Don’t be afraid, trust God that this will work for the good of your marriage and your family.

6. Don’t compare your husband

Don’t compare your husband to other people. Focus on the good things and praise him for those! Praise causes positive behavior.

7. Use your faith

Call those things that are not as though they were. Use your faith and speak life over your husband. Instead of speaking of all his shortcomings, bless him with your words.

Bring your husband to a higher level with your words. Instead of speaking his faults speak highly of him and watch him rise up to that level. Remember that words have power.

8. Believe in him and value him

The key to unlock our husband’s heart is to honor him. One of the best ways to honor our husbands is to believe in them and value them.

See him as Christ sees him and be thankful for his life. Acknowledge what he does for the family and the position God has given him.

9. Be a good companion

Be his friend, don’t be your husband’s enemy. Enjoy spending time with him. Be interested in his life, in his hobbies.

10. Be an Ephesians 5:21-24 wife

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

For wives, this means submit to your husbands as the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

Ephesians 5: 21-24

I love what Tony Evans has to say about submissiveness:

The biblical concept of submissiveness is not being a door mat. Submissiveness is placing oneself willingly under the authority of another in keeping the ultimate responsibility you have under Christ.

Dr. Tony Evans

Being a submissive wife doesn’t mean that you are less than your husband. Remember, to God, both of you are equal. He is called to be the head of the family and God wants you to respect the position He has given your husband.


Be committed to be a godly wife to your husband. This will not only bless your marriage but will also bless your children’s marriage as well, as you set the example on how to treat a husband.

Honor and respect is the key to unlock your husband’s heart. Use it!

An honoring spirit makes you more attractive to your husband.

Choose to trust God, choose to follow His advice. He will not let you down.

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Born in Costa Rica. Wife and mother of 2 boys. Studied Biblical and Ministerial Studies and graduated from Harvest School of Ministry. Helping you and encouraging you to develop a personal relationship with the Lord so you can live a beautiful kingdom life.


  1. Carmen Brown

    Love this! I love anything that will encourage us to encourage our husbands. We are part of creating great leaders for our home by being a great example of Christ to them. Great tip of not comparing our husbands to others. I have seen that hurt men before and it can be devastating.

    • Carolina

      I completely agree with you. Thanks for stopping by.

  2. Debra Jean

    So true! Give him the respect even if he doesn’t always deserve it, and he will not want to lose it. Wives desire love husbands desire respect, really when you step back it isn’t all that hard to give them the respect their heart longs for. Great post Many Thanks 8)

    • Carolina

      Yes, we do it because we want to be obedient to what God has commanded us to do.


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