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The most important thing you need to speak over your marriage

The most important thing you need to speak over your marriage

Do you know that with your words you could be speaking death over your marriage?

When you talk about your marriage and your spouse, have you paid attention to the words that you are speaking?

The Bible tells us that death and life are in the power of the tongue and those that love it will eat from it’s fruit. (Proverbs 18:21) So, what is this fruit this verse talk about?

The words we speak are powerful, they are seeds and just like any other seed they reproduce after it’s own kind. Apple seeds produce apple trees, mango seeds produce mango trees. Hate-filled words produce hate, and love filled words produce love.

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Why are the words we speak in our marriages so important?

Every time we speak over our marriage we are speaking words that will bring death or life into it. This is why it is so important to have the right confession over our marriage.

This does not mean that we ignore the problems, this means that no matter what is going on with our marriage we choose to speak life and love filled words over it. These words are seeds that are going to reproduce after what we have spoken.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue. Are you speaking life over your marriage?

The most important affirmation we need to speak over our marriage

If you want to have a successful marriage this is what you need to start confessing over it:

My husband and I have a 1 Corinthians 13 kind of love. We have the God kind of love in our marriage.

Simple right? But what you are confessing is very powerful.

The God kind of love is the best one. Just to give you an idea here are a few characteristics of His kind of love:

  • It’s patient
  • It’s kind
  • It’s not jealous
  • It does not envy
  • It’s not arrogant
  • It’s not proud
  • It does not dishonor
  • It does not demand it’s own way
  • It’s not easily angered
  • It keeps no record of wrong doings
  • It’s not rude
  • It’s not resentful
  • It’s not demanding
  • Never gets annoyed
  • It does not act improperly
  • Thinks no evil
  • It does not dwell on the evil done
  • It’s not ambitious
  • It finds no joy in unrighteousness
  • Rejoices with the truth
  • Takes no pleasure in injustice
  • Always protects
  • Always trust
  • It never gives up
  • Never loses faith
  • Is always hopeful
  • Endures through every circumstance
  • Bears all things
  • Believes all things
  • Is always supportive
  • Is always loyal
  • It remains
  • Believes the best in all
  • There is no limit to its hope
  • It never fails
  • Will last forever

How amazing it would be to have this kind of love in our marriages!!!

The awesome news is that we can:

  1. Because The Love of God has been shed in our hearts by the Holy Spirit, we are capable of loving this way because it is already in us.
  2. Because The Word of God says that with God all things are possible.

Be patient and endure

Remember it all starts with a seed. It all starts with your words.

Even if this is not the kind of marriage you are experiencing right now, start declaring that you have a 1 Corithians 13 kind of marriage.

Tony Evans is a Pastor of a church in Dallas, Texas and he has a great book called Kingdom Marriages, I highly recommended. It will bless your marriage and your family.

Here is a video by Jimmy Evans from Marriage Today on How to Speak Life over your marriage. It opens on a new page, watch it when you have a change or while you are driving or cleaning.

Even when the road gets bumpy, be patient, endure, keep praying, keep speaking life and love over your marriage and you will see those seeds reproducing soon.

We can bring life into our marriages or we can bring death with the words we speak
How do you see your marriage in 5 years from now? Are you speaking life or death over your marriage?

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About The Author

Carolina

Born in Costa Rica. Wife and mother of 2 boys. Studied Biblical and Ministerial Studies and graduated from Harvest School of Ministry. Helping you and encouraging you to develop a personal relationship with the Lord so you can live a beautiful kingdom life.

47 Comments

  1. Cynthia K Johnson

    I love your article. Thank you for the reminder to confess and pray the Word over our spouse. Sometimes we get busy and forget the power of this. God’s Word and prayer is more powerful than we realize. I can testify that what you are saying is true because my marriage has improved so much through these 26 years! We are happier and more in love than we were when we first met. Blessings, friends

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    • Carolina

      That is so awesome, I love your testimony!

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  2. SHEENA

    Hi Carolina! I so love this message! Indeed this is something all of us need to have in our marriage. I have read this and will take note of all I’ve learned here! So encouraging! Thank you!

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    • Carolina

      I am glad you loved it!

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  3. angela

    Marriage is very sacred in my eyes. This is lovely.

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    • Carolina

      Same here!

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  4. Karla

    Thank you, Carolina!

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  5. Suzan

    Words carry power…we should all be vigilant in how we use them.

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    • Carolina

      Amen 😊

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  6. Leigh Ann

    It’s so important to speak lovingly to each other too, even after 20+ years together. Maybe more so!

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    • Carolina

      Yes, I agree.

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  7. Emily

    YES! This is awesome. Words are so so so so so powerful! πŸ™‚

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    • Carolina

      😊

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  8. Jana

    Our words definitely affect our lives. Early on in our marriage, my husband and I committed to guard our words ABOUT each other when talking to others. Spouse-bashing is so common in today’s society. This one discipline has protected in us numerous ways and has proven to be a powerful means of honoring each other – even when we’re struggling relationally.

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    • Carolina

      This is so important, I have seen so many times wives talking bad about their husbands and the other way around, it is just not healthy or honoring like you said.

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  9. Charlene

    It is so important to be intentional in our marriages! Marriages can be so wonderful – if we work at them

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    • Carolina

      I think so too. Nothing better than spending the rest of your life with your best friend!

      Reply
  10. Robin

    Thanks for sharing!

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  11. jen

    Love the message! Words are powerful

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  12. Ramae Hamrin

    Love this! In marriage or any other relationships, it all starts with our words. Thank you for the reminder.

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    • Carolina

      Thanks for stopping by!😊

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  13. Stacey

    Thanks for the reminder. I think a key thing for me is that my husband is my friend first. I would not speak hurtful things about my friends. Yes, I can be annoyed or angry sometimes, but that doesn’t change how I speak to him or about him.

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    • Carolina

      I agree

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  14. Lina

    Words are so powerful! This is a great article and reminder to us all πŸ™‚

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  15. Kyndall Bennett

    This is a marvelous list to keep in the mind and heart!

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  16. Laura

    Communication is so important especially in marriage. That’s how it endures. Thanks for the article!

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    • Carolina

      Same here!

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  17. Tiffany

    Words carry meaning and power – well written article to give thought into what we say.

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  18. Cindy

    Words are indeed so powerful! They do speak life…hope, love, acceptance, encouragement, or they speak death…hate, judgment, division, discouragement. It’s always a choice!

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    • Carolina

      You are right, that is why we need to be so careful with the words we speak.

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  19. Pauline

    A thought provoking post. Marriage is hard work and speakings words of love, encouragement and respect are important.

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    • Carolina

      I agree, in order to make our marriages work, we need to give 100% all the time.

      Reply
  20. Lisa

    such a great reminder, thank you for posting this!

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  21. Angela

    Words are so powerful and this is such a great reminder for all relationships! Well written, thanks so much for sharing πŸ™‚

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    • Carolina

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  22. Annette

    Fabulous post!! My husband and I work with engaged couples as they prepare for marriage. I will certainly be sharing your wisdom during our meetings. Thank you!!

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    • Carolina

      I love to hear that, thank you so much!

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  23. Jane

    Hate-filled words produce hate, and love filled words produce love. Powerful words but yet true. In this day and age it’s hard to keep a marriage if God is not in the center of your lives. My husband and I are married for 18years now and there’s only one rule in the house, never go to sleep angry. Always forgive and forget. Thanks for the great reminder! xxx

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    • Carolina

      Congratulations on 18 years of marriage, I know it’s a lot of hard work but it is so worth it!

      Reply
  24. Shanna

    What a lovely sentiment. There are so many marriages that can be helped by this. And for those that can’t, may the people in them have the strength to walk away from each other in grace.

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    • Carolina

      Amen

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  25. Amanda

    This is beautiful and so true! Thanks for the reminder!

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    • Carolina

      😊

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  26. Eileen

    Thank you for this great article! Me and my husband were just talking about this the other day, about how easy it is to forget to pray together and for our marriage. We have a lot of little kids ha, so the days are crazy! We do want to become more intentional in praying for each other and together!

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    • Carolina

      With all those babied you need to keep your marriage strong. I love that you guys pray together, that is wonderful!

      Reply

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