7 Keys to Raising Godly Boys in a Troubled World
Keys to raising godly boys in a troubled world
Raising godly boys in today’s world is not an easy task. One day not too long ago, when I was working at an elementary school a little boy came to me. He was a second grader, so he was only 7 years old.
This little boy informed me that one of his friends told him to search for certain words on the computer. Long story short, all kinds of pornography was found on the other boy’s tablet. I was completely shocked. How a kid this little would know about sex and where to find pornography?
This is just one of the many stories I can tell you about kids nowadays. Working in an elementary school for a couple of years opened my eyes to the state of our world today. It is so sad to see how our kid’s minds are being polluted every single day. There is no escaping it unless you want to live in a bubble or secluded from society.
As Christian parents, we have to make sure that we are doing our very best to raise godly boys. Boys need a good foundation, that helps them make good choices and above all, have a relationship with Jesus.
You have to understand my friend that our boys are not really ours, they belong to The Lord. God has entrusted you the raising of His children and one day we have to answer for that task.
Raising godly boys doesn’t mean that our boys are not going to make mistakes. It means that when they fall, they are going to put their eyes on Jesus and pick themselves back up and keep going.
Here are 7 very important keys that will help you raise your boys the way God has commanded us to. The most important part of this is for you to be a doer, to put all these things in practice, to make this a priority, your boy’s life depends on it.
Teach your boys the word of God
This book of the law shall not depart out of your mouth; but you shall meditate therein day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall have good success.
If you want your boys to be successful in life, if you want them to know the secrets that will make them, healthy, happy, prosperous and most important to have a relationship with God, then you must teach them the word of God.
It is your job and your responsibility to teach your kids the word of God. It is not the church’s job, or the pastor’s or the Sunday school teacher. What these people do is to reinforce what you have been teaching at home.
Leading by example is extremely important to make sure you sit down with your kids and study the bible. You don’t have to be a bible scholar in order to teach your boys.
The most important part about this key is for you to pray and ask The Holy Spirit for a revelation of His word. As your study The Word with your boys, you will have a greater understanding of the word and The Holy Spirit will help teach it to your boys.
It is never too late or too early to teach your boys the word of God. Do it, even when you don’t think they are listening, be faithful in this area, your boys will thank you one day.
Take your boys to church
Do not underestimate the power of bringing your boys to church. The church is the house of God, there, you will find people that will support and encourage you with raising godly boys. ⛪
It is imperative for your boys to be in an environment where God is the focal point. Besides learning the word of God, they will also learn to worship God and how to serve others. Your boys are most likely to find friends that are a blessing to their life.
The church is not a building, being part of the church is being part of the body of Christ. Is being part of a community that is set apart from the world to follow Jesus and to do his works.
Make sure you make your boys part of this community, part of the body of Christ. (Make sure you take your boys to a church that teaches the word of God and doesn’t just babysit the kids).
Pray with your boys
Prayer doesn’t have to be a difficult task, prayer is super easy, all we do is talk to God, we are all good at talking! So make sure you grab your boys and you sit down and pray with them and for them. Take turns talking to God, make sure you let them know that God is their dad and they can tell Him anything they want.🙏🏼
If they don’t know how to pray, teach them how! Show them how to talk to God, their loving father.
Teach your boys to be thankful and to praise God during prayer and encourage them to tell God how much they love Him. This will encourage that personal relationship that we want them to have because after all, having a relationship with God is the most important key of all.
Finally, encourage them to spend some quiet time listening to what God has to say. Prayer is a conversation between us and God, we talk and He talks too, but we have to be able to listen to that still, small voice.
Be present, listen and communicate
Being there for your boys is so important. Family life is so important, that’s the reason why the devil is trying so hard to destroy the family. The family is the foundation of our society.
Our society is spiraling out of control because there are more broken homes now, which means more broken lives. Each day, there are more and more distractions that pull us away from quality time with our families: phones, tablets, video games, tv, extracurricular activities, jobs, etc.
Raising godly boys in a troubled world does not happen by accident, we have to give our best effort. Let’s turn off our devices and sit down and talk to the kids, play a board game at the table or do a puzzle together. How about a picnic?
Find ways to have quality family time. Be present. Sitting in the living room with your boys while you are on the internet does not make you present. Sitting down with them and talking to them is being present.
When you ask questions and really pay attention to their answers, that’s when they know that you care and they can come to you with any question or any concern they have.
Be an example
Be the kind of person you would like your boys to be in the future. Lead by example. Being a parent is so hard but God has blessed us with wonderful boys so if we want to raise godly boys we have to be a godly person too.
Being godly doesn’t mean being religious, being godly means having a relationship with God. Let your light shine at home, and have the relationship with God that you would like your boys to have.
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walks about, seeking whom he may devour.
1 Peter 5:8
We have an enemy and his job is to steal, kill and destroy so we have to be on the lookout for ways that he may use to destroy our boys. One of the tactics he uses is ungodly friends.
Nothing will bring a kid down faster than having friends that are not a blessing. It is our job to supervise who are boys friends are and who they hang out with. It is super important that we follow God’s lead here because He knows what is inside a person’s heart.
I’m sorry but you can’t be a cool parent here, this is an area that will make or break your boys if you are not vigilant. I’d rather be the mean mom that doesn’t let her boys hang out with the cool kid, you know….. the trouble maker one, than crying tears of sorrow in the future. Pay attention to their friends and their friend’s families.
There are certain things that should not be allowed in your home. Movies, games, songs, clothing, tv shows, etc, all these things can be a blessing or not, choose wisely what kind of things you allow in your home. All these things go inside their mind and influence your boy’s life.
Teaching gratitude to kids
There are so many bad things happening around us nowadays. There is so much evil in this world. People tend to focus only on the negative side of things and they become, sad, depressed and negative. This is why God wants us to focus on the good things.
Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
We are surrounded by negative people. But how do we keep our boys from becoming a negative person? How do we make them look at the bright side?
The answer is simple, teach your boys to be grateful. The only way for you to teach your boys to be grateful is by being grateful yourself. It is so important to lead by example in these areas.
It doesn’t matter how hard your life is, there is always something to be grateful for. When we are grateful, we focus on the positive, on the bright side. Talk about gratitude with your boys and asked them what they are grateful for.
Always find beauty in the midst of the chaos.
Make a habit of saying what you guys are grateful for as a family. Don’t wait until Thanksgiving!
God loves a grateful heart! Grateful people are positive people.
You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.
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Teach your boys to serve others
We live in a world where everything revolves around me, and what I want, and what I need. Our kids are growing up in a very selfish society and that’s why it’s so important to teach our kids to serve others. We need to teach them that the world does not revolve around them and that God has put us on this Earth to be a blessing to others.
Find ways to get them involved in helping others, maybe helping an elderly neighbor, have them help you with the grocery bags. They can also participate in church activities where they can serve. They can help clean the mess after a church or a family activity.
Have them bake cookies for first responders, there are tons of ways we can teach our kids how to be a blessing. We are called to do the works of Jesus and we need to teach that to our kids.
Raising godly boys in a troubled world is hard but it is not impossible, we just need to be diligent. We are called to be the light of the world and our kids too.
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Ultimately, our boys are their own person and they are going to make their own decisions. What we are doing is giving them a solid foundation for them to stand on and make wise decisions.
Being a godly person takes effort and the sooner we start learning the better but is never too late to instruct a child or a teenager in the ways of The Lord. We will be glad we did!
What kind of things do you do, to instruct your boys in the way of The Lord? Please leave your comments and ideas below, I would love to read them!