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17 Ways to be more attractive to your husband

17 Ways to be more attractive to your husband

I think all of us girls can agree that we all want to look more attractive for our husbands. Right?

I know sometimes we get upset because we don’t look a certain way or we don’t weigh what we want to weigh. We have unrealistic expectations of what beauty is.

When it comes down to our husbands, you have to remember that he decided to marry you because of who you are not because of how you look.

The beauty that’s inside of you is the one that made him fall in love with you. So don’t forget that when you look in the mirror.

Not everyone can walk around looking like a Victorias’ Secret model but that doesn’t mean that we are not beautiful. You can be your own kind of beautiful and that is the best kind!

Here are a few tips that will help you be more attractive for your husband. Because even though your marriage is not based on looks, your marriage is worth looking your best.

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1. Be kind to yourself

Sometimes we tend to be our own bullies, we look in the mirror and the only things we see are the things that we don’t like.

We tell ourselves how fat we are, or how skinny we are, how ugly our hair looks, how oily our skin is, we put ourselves down.

You need to realize that you are God’s masterpiece and He made you beautiful. He doesn’t make mistakes.

When you look in the mirror, see your beauty. Speak life over yourself and over your body.

Tell yourself how beautiful you are, how pretty your lipstick looks on you, how awesome you did your hair and how great that dress looks on you.

Be your own cheerleader!

This will not only be great for your self-esteem but will also give you a confidence that your husband will notice and find attractive.

2. Beauty starts and ends in the heart

It doesn’t matter how beautiful you are on the outside. Real beauty starts in the heart.

My 12 year old told me about this beautiful girl at his school. I asked him if he likes her and he told me “she is pretty on the outside but I don’t like her heart” I have to say that is a proud momma moment for me!

What is inside of you will speak louder than a beautiful face and a nice body.

Check your heart, are you walking in love? Are you a reflection of God’s love to this world? The Holy Spirit can help you in this area.

Let the inside beauty of your heart overflow so when your husband looks at you, that is the beauty he sees.

3. Smile more, laugh more

The truth is…you look beautiful when you smile. I bet your husband loves to see you smile and to hear you laugh.

I know when we find ourselves in the midst of a life storm it is hard to laugh and sometimes it’s even hard to smile.

But if we really look, if we really pay attention there is always a reason to smile. So do it more, smile often!

According to Proverbs 17, a merry heart is as good as medicine. Maybe the medicine that your marriage needs is to smile more and laugh together!

4. Be playful/flirty

Just because you have been married for several years doesn’t mean that you have to stop flirting with your husband.

Trust me if you don’t do it, someone else will.

When you flirt with your husband you make him feel wanted and men love that. Be playful, the time that you spend with your husband its time well invested.

Keep the spark alive in your marriage.

5. Basic Hygiene

This is all common sense but just in case, here we go.

  • Shower every day
  • Wash you hair and keep it smelling nice the days that you don’t wash it. (you can use a dry shampoo for this.)
  • Take care of your teeth by brushing your teeth and going to the dentist.
  • Shave everything that needs shaving.

6. Get out of your Pjs

Pjs are super comfortable and it is so easy to stay in them, especially if you are a stay at home mom and you have no errands to run.

Don’t get in the habit of staying in your pjs all day. When you start your day, put clothes on and be ready to tackle the day.

7. Throw away clothes that makes you look homeless

Take pride on the way you look, even when you are at home. You don’t have to go all out but at least wear clean clothes that fit you right and are free of holes.

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8. Put some make up on

A little mascara and lipstick never hurt anybody. We are all busy but all it takes is 5 min of your day to have you looking pretty.

Take care of your skin, use a moisturizer to hydrate your skin, you can even buy a tinted moisturizer just for when you are at home. These two are my favorite.

Put mascara on your flirty lashes, maybe some eyeliner, a little bit of color on your lips and a little bush on your cheeks to keep that youthful look and you are set, and all it took was 5 min of your day.

9. Be sweet

I know that sometimes our husbands can drive us crazy but there is never a good reason for us to be ugly with them. This is what the bible says:

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 15:1

Remember that our words have power, they have the power to bring life or death to our marriages.

Always have a kind word for your husband, don’t nag.

Say what you need to say without sarcasm and when you have nothing nice to say then it is better to be quiet.

10. Treat him how you want to be treated

Man and women are very different, that is true but what is also true is that every one of our actions and our words are seeds that reproduce after its own kind.

Make sure that you are sowing what you want to eventually reap.

So treat your husband the same way that you want him to treat you. Even if he doesn’t treat you the way that you want right now, keep sowing seeds of love, kindness and respect.

Sooner or later you will reap what you have sown.

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11. Buy a push up bra!

Why not? The right bra will make your clothes look better and will make you feel confident and sexy.

12. Update your wardrobe

If you have been wearing the same clothes for the past 10 years then it’s time to change.

You don’t have to spend a lot of money on clothes in order to look great. You can find amazing deals online or find stuff on sale.

Buy new colors, new prints, new designs. Check out what is new and trendy.

Buy clothes that are flattering for your figure and make you feel great. Don’t be scared of trying something new or different.

13. Buy sexy lingerie

If you spend 365 days per year with your granny panties then you seriously need to work in this area. You will look prettier for your husband with sexy lingerie.

There is sexy lingerie for all body types. The best advice is to buy something that is flattering and that fits you right.

14. Take care of your body

Eat right and exercise. Don’t over eat, know when to stop.

If you want to loose weight, then lose it. What is stopping you? You are capable of losing as much weight as you want unless you have a medical condition that causes you to gain weight.

You can do anything you set your mind to do. With God’s help you can achieve whatever goals you have.

Start walking with your husband, this is a great way to exercise and get some quality time together. Hold hands and walk a mile together!

15. Make him a priority

After God, your marriage should always comes first. I know it’s hard when we have little kids because they need us but you need to make time to be with your husband.

Remember you are a wife first and then a mom. Make your husband a priority because your marriage is the foundation of your family.

Go out on a date, go for a walk, call him at work or on his way home. Sit with him on the couch, lay together in bed with the tv off. Put the phone down when he talks.

Make his favorite food, buy his favorite drinks, always make him a priority.

16.Compliment him

Believe it or not, a great way to be more attractive to your husband is to compliment him.

As humans we always tend to look at the negative, or at what is wrong. Be the wife that focuses on the positive.

Your husband is not perfect but look at all the great qualities that he has.

Is he an great dad? Tell him that!

Is he a great provider for your family? Let him know!

Is he handsome? make sure he knows!

Tell him he looks great in those shorts, how sexy he looks in his underwear, how safe he makes you feel! Compliment him all the time.

17. Be positive

Nobody likes to be around negative people.

There is a saying that says : “Distance yourself from negative people who try to lower your motivation and decrease your ambition.”

We want to attract our husbands not create a distance, so be positive. Always look at the bright side and encourage your husband when he needs help in this area.

If we really trust God then there is no reason for us to be negative. With God all things are possible, so we should always expect good things because God is good.

Don’t forget

Don’t forget, the most important way to be more attractive to your husband is to have a beautiful heart.

Always speak beautiful things over yourself and if you have a hard time ask God to help you see yourself the way that He sees you.

Always pray for your husband, pray for your marriage and work hard on your marriage because it is so worth it!

Marriage is worth working for. Find out how you can be more attractive to your husband
17 Tips that will help you be more attractive to your husband because your marriage its worth it.
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Born in Costa Rica. Wife and mother of 2 boys. Studied Biblical and Ministerial Studies and graduated from Harvest School of Ministry. Helping you and encouraging you to develop a personal relationship with the Lord so you can live a beautiful kingdom life.


  1. Tina Truelove

    Well written and well said. We need more encouragement like this as wives and moms. I love that your son referenced the pretty girl’s heart. You are teaching him well.

    • Carolina

      Thank you, yes he made me proud.

  2. Tracy

    HI Carolina, great post and great encouragement. I have been married nearly 31 years and we always need to hear these things and be reminded to get out of our ruts! Thanks for the kick in the pants 🙂
    God bless

    • Carolina

      Wow 31 years, that is awesome, congratulations!

  3. Kyndall Bennett

    OMG, my fiance found some of my underwear from the military and he has YET to live down the “granny panties” horror! Any time I go underwear shopping, I can hear him mutter, “Please, just no more granny panties” throughout the whole aisle!

    • Carolina

      🤣 Granny Panties are super comfortable! But I think we need to have also something sexy for our husbands. lol

  4. Tiffany Montgomery

    So when I saw the post I was ready to sigh… Why do we need to be reminded of the ways to be attractive to him? Honestly, there was a time I cared so much about that… then bills, a mortgage, work, kids… more kids… They all came and now I do, I honestly need to be reminded to get out of my PJ’s, take a shower and shave my legs. But 3. Smile more, laugh more hit me hardest. With all the responsibility of life, I often forget to just have fun and smile. Thanks for the reminders!

    • Carolina

      I think it happens to all of us. We are so busy with all the things that need to get done that we forget to smile, laugh and enjoy life. This not only makes us more attractive to our husbands but it is super good for us too. Thanks so much for stopping by!

    • Julia Martinez

      Hello Carolina I’m a newlywed. We just celebrated our first year anniversary. Your tips are so godly
      My husband was born in Punta arenas , Costa Rica. I have given the same advice to the younger women at my church. All the advice you gobd here I’d helpful to women of all ages. I hope to one day visit your beautiful country. Pura vida

      • Carolina

        Hi Julia! Thanks so much for stopping by. Costa Rica, it’s a beautiful place, hopefully, you can see it for yourself soon!


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